“I don’t know if this sounds strange or not, but I’m natural and I don’t really like my hair. I don’t dislike it, let me say that, but I’m not in love with it…yet? Is this normal? My hair is really nappy, like really as in no curls, nothing and I want to feel fierce about it, but I just don’t right now. I wear it with semi pride I guess, but sometimes I wish it was just softer and looser. I feel like a fraud for reading this site. I’m supposed to be proud, right? I feel bad for even thinking this.” -Tasha
often i’m asked by new transitioners in secret, hushed conversations, huddled back in the corner of bookstores, living rooms and anywhere else someone decides to sneek over and brave the question of, “how long did it take for you to come to terms with your hair?” the person posting the questions immediately looks me straight in the eyes after the last word slips from their lips, staring intently waiting to see how i’ll respond. will i be judgmental? can i even relate? and at that moment you can see that glimmer of hope that quickly passes over their face, hoping that they are not alone.
this is such a loaded question for me with an answer that’s not as simple as it would seem. however, for the sake of this conversation, let’s just say about three to four years. it was about that many years before i really, truly, 100%, bonafide, you-can-kick-rocks-if-you-don’t-like-it, loved my hair. i always disclaim this timeline by pointing out the fact that [click to continue…]
Her lips on his could tell him better than all her stumbling words.” – Margaret Mitchell
You’re getting ready to strategically plant yourself under the mistletoe at the big holiday bash. You’ve got your posed, but not really posed stance going as you stand there smiling, laughing, sipping your cocktail and patiently waiting for the opportunity to pucker up with that cutie you’ve been passing glances to all night. That cutie. Your man. Your significant other. Your husband. HIM.
Your natural hair is decked and in your favorite and flyest style. Your outfit is tight and right in all the right places and you are ready. You’re giving him the eye because this is the kissing holiday, so give your lips the advantage and dress them up for the occasion with these three holiday festive lip colors to get you pucker ready. [click to continue…]
for the last few years, my birthday has come and gone in a flash and unrecognizable blur. like the many years before, i find myself on set, on some studio lot, feet aching, running around like a chicken, waiting for my production day to end. that’s exactly how my birthday was last year; down to the wire working as late as ever with me celebrating in the office amongst the rest of the team toasting to my day with mini cupcakes fetched at the deli below our offices. but not this year. this year, i had no hand in any preparations, nor a t.v. show to attend to and my birthday weekend went off with out a hitch. [click to continue…]
Hello, my name is Lola, and I am a ratchett TV watcher.
Confession: I have watched the “Ridickulous” episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta three times. Bravo’s highest rated reality show has never been short of shock-value. But this particular episode far exceeds the show’s typical finger pointing, wig-snatching and over-the-top drama. I had to watch the episode again, you know, just to be certain that that really happened, that my eyes didn’t deceive me. Then I watched it a third time, for um, research purposes. Yeah. I’m comfortable with these admissions only because I’m fairly certain that I’m not alone. We could just chalk it up as a “guilty pleasure”. It is pleasurable in a twisted sort of way. Guilty? Perhaps, but do we feel guilty enough to turn the channel?
The Real Housewives of Atlanta without a doubt wins the Emmy for [click to continue…]
christmas is a wonderful time for many. once you make your way through tree decorating, egg nog comas and gift wrapping you are left with something magical that lies not in the tangible but all of in the things we cannot see. the sweet smells of candy, marshmallows and holiday cooking that we associate with the holidays, the warm feelings we get when we slip into a comfy sweater to go shopping with our family, the laughs shared over christmas breakfast. all of these things lend to our never ending stream of holiday memories that have the power to take us back to christmas anytime we want with just a close of our eyes and a tilt of our heads towards the heavens as we reminisce on the things that make us remember the holidays so strongly. with only a few days to go, kinky girls are recounting their memories in this month’s aphropic: unforgettable and cherished christmas memories. [click to continue…]
“Can’t you see
I’m talking about eternity
Tell me would you care to be
My lady, my baby”
in hinduisum, the lotus represents beauty, fertility, prosperity, eternity and eternal youth. we all know that we can’t live forever, and that in time all physical beauty will fade, but the idea of forever makes many swoon at the possibility.
in lotus flower bomb, wale is enamored by bre who, on the other hand, is annoyed by his persistence. decked in a blazer and a fitted dress, she is working it as the manager (owner?) of her own shop and plays a mash up between annoyed and coy as she buffers wale’s attempts at breaking down her wall. [click to continue…]
if you are anything like me, you love flat twists but when it comes to doing them on yourself, houston we have a problem. because my hair is not naturally thick, my flat twists, or any twists for that matter, fall, well, flat. it’s a no bueno for me, but after seeing sugar do this [...]
There is nothing like walking into a party on a shimmering pair of legs , a glowing decolatage or a golden makeup look having all eyes on you! The best way to work the holiday season is going for beauty gold so let’s live our lives like it’s golden. Mini skirts, halters, and backless frocks always [...]
I’ve had my eye on Herieth Paul for a while now, ever since the 16 year old dazzled on a shoot for Canadian Elle wearing an afro wig. The Tanzanian born model, now relocated to Canada, has been on model1′s books since the tender age of 14. In the last year she has shot for Italian Vogue [...]
“Hold out your back, time to impress. Pull out your freakum dress.” sofia vergara knows how to work with what she’s got. both fly and funny – this curvy dame decided to channel her inner love of dolce and gabanna when she launched her sofia by sofia vergara collection for kmart. drawing inspiration from the [...]
if i haven’t said it enough just yet, the holidays are always my favorite time of the year. i’m a holiday baby, so that makes it even more fun; double presents! but what makes it the most nostalgic for me is the time i get to spend with the ones i love. i get all [...]
“Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens. Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens.” Seasons Greetings! The holidays are upon us. That means lots of Christmas parties, eggnog, and gift giving. This year, I have the honor of being one of Santa’s little helpers modeling for Target’s On the Dot fashion blog. With looks put [...]
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