Ever since many of us were little girls, we’ve imagined in vivid detail the day we will say “I do” to the man of our dreams. Many of the details have already been written into memory like a fairy tale. The flowing white gown made of beautiful satin or an elegant French lace, the cascading bouquet of perfectly arranged flowers and the towering, hand­crafted wedding cake. Some of us have even known exactly what engagement ring we wanted to wear as a Mrs. since we were teens. Those story lines have remained fairly certain for many of us. But over the years, the one detail that may have changed is how you would wear your hair. READ MORE

We realize that the world is still ogling over Misty’s Under Armour ads, and though they are quite lovely, her latest interpretive dance video is all we can think about. In two beautiful minutes filled with empowerment vocals by Estelle, the NYC soloist and British vocalist completely fill our hearts. Misty Copeland is that stunningly powerful black ballerina that makes us stand on our tip toes and dance around in the mirror and gleam with pride. READ MORE

"I believe that every person is born with talent. I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life loves to be taken by the lapel and told: 'I'm with you kid. Let's go.'"

After avoiding it for nearly two years, I finally watched the documentary Dark Girls. I’d been putting it off because I didn’t want to get upset. I didn’t want to watch something that would only remind me of the strong impact colorism has had in my world. Even now when I type my own name into a Google search, the option “Nikia Phoenix race” appears. Wow! That’s something people actually look up. I know who I am. I know where I come from. Sure, my complexion may have you confused. Those freckles probably throw you for a loop. But my super kinky hair is an obvious indicator of my African roots. The subject of Black hair is another conversation that we’ll save for later. Let’s get back to skin. READ MORE

There’s always going to be something going on with you or with someone you love. If you’re not distracted by your own problems, maybe you feel heavy with all the dysfunction in the world around you. Maybe you didn’t wash clothes this weekend and you have to wear your ugly bra or your uncomfortable panties today. Maybe you’re cutting back on sugar and caffeine and you feel like slapping someone. READ MORE

Not everyone sees or knows that though. Everyone wants to see well-dressed, put together, composed Black women all the time. That is not alright. We have burdens we carry and crosses we bear on our backs too.
"It was just like, she’s on the cover of these magazines? I’d never seen anyone like me on the cover. You can affect and inspire people without knowing it. Your work is done and you have no idea. That’s really powerful so thank you for being that for me."

“It’s not for me to decide [if someone can live with Eartha Kitt]. That’s for someone who decides to live with me to decide. Not for me. Compromise? What is compromising? Compromise for what? Compromising for what? Compromising for what reason? To compromise for what? To compromise? What is compromise? [laughs] Stupid. A man comes into my life and I have to compromise? You must think about that one again. READ MORE





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