What if I told you Elgin Lumpkin aka Ginuwine currently has a YouTube video tutorial on how he creates his famous 90′s hair? And that it details how he strategically places the groups of hair around his temples in half circles, and brings it down to his side burns in creative curly q shapes?
Ok, ok. Close YouTube right now! You can search all you want but it’s not there! Would you still have laughed if it was another famous person? Say, Janet Jackson or Tyra Banks or Rozonda Thomas aka Chilli? Because they also sport what is unofficially termed as BABY HAIR, along with a host of other famous… and non-famous folks. Oh, and there are also multiple YouTube tutorials on how to style baby hair. You can definitely search and find those.
Is this “styling” just another form of trying to mimic the appearance of, gasp… GOOD HAIR? Hold up, you know what i mean. Not actual good hair, but the most common perception of good hair… straight, silky, smooth, blah, blah, blah. Everyone has shorter hairs around their temples and nape. And depending on the curl of your hair, that short hair may curl up or lay down flat. Now how much sense does it make if the rest of your hair is tightly coiled, yet somehow [click to continue…]
“My 8 year old daughter is a diva. I admit she gets it from me, but not in a bad way. She just loves her natural hair as much as I love mine. I’m so happy about this because I didn’t love my hair as a child. Like me, she wants to wear it out but between playground dirt, sticky hands and just plain breakage from wrestling with her brother, I’m not sure this is the best idea. I’d like for her to enjoy her hair but not at the expense of breakage! Any tips you can give?”
Little girls just wanna have fun, too! Styling your daughters hair down and out can be a fun experience for her… whether it’s for a special occasion, or a regular school day. Switching things up every now and then can be a good thing…even if it means a slightly longer detangling session!
Got a minute? Well, that’s about all the time a mama usually has to get herself ready and presentable before heading out the door. Here’s the typical scenario: After getting the mini(s) ready, you have T-minus 5 minutes to do SOMETHING to pretty yourself and your beautiful natural hair before you’re officially running late. What to do? Here are 5 simple things you can do that each take 5 minutes or less. Taking these quick steps should help keep you from getting those stares of pity while out in public… you know, that “poor mama, she must be exhausted” look. (While that might be true, it doesn’t mean you have to LOOK like it!)
There are many mamas who pull off that five minute look effortlessly. What’s their secret? Less a slew of personal assistants and a magic wand it’s really just time management and not forgetting that mama needs to look good too. When mama looks good so does everyone else, right? Halle berry makes this effortless chic thing look so easy, and I’m here to tell you as a natural-haired mom of two myself, it can sometimes be a battle, but I think I’ve finally got that five minutes to pretty thing down pact. So check out my five minute countdown to fly and just for fun, I’ve included a few tips for primping your daughter in a flash too!
“My daughter is 4 and very tender-headed (although not sure she is any more difficult than any other 4 year old). Through the years I have taught myself how to braid and twist but now since she is older she won’t sit. I wash her hair once a month and co wash it usually every other week. I use water and conditioner as a detangler and it helps a little. The braids stay in for a couple of weeks. During hair care, I try to make it into a game, watch movies, let her play in hair stuff, come her barbie head, give her lots of breaks. Any tips are very much appreciated? Also, know of any how to sites to learn more easy styles for her?” – Sharla
Hey girl, I feel your pain! And speaking of pain, don’t fret about your daughter being tender-headed. Turns out, a tender head is a common issue and it typically sticks with a person into adulthood. It sounds like you are doing your best to be gentle, which is the best thing you can do (short of giving her a shot of local anesthesia during hair styling sessions)! Also, it sounds like your problem may be more of a restless 4-yr old (very typical), rather than a child in pain from hair combing. All of the things you’ve listed to try and make those sessions easier are really great, so keep doing them! Here are a few more things you can try out, a few I currently do with my own toddler girl and a few I’ve heard about.
First, let’s address making combing your little one’s natural hair easier: [click to continue…]
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“I’m 4.5 months pregnant and my hair is looking fuller & thicker than ever (thanks to prenatal vitamins) and also growing faster than I can handle. Do you have any advice on how to care for hair during pregnancy, and low maintenance natural styling tips for pregnant ladies with waning energy? I cannot keep rocking this sad bun and it’s even sadder (but very long) alternate the pony tail.” – Traci
First of all, congrats on the pregnancy! It’s a wonderful experience that a woman will never fully understand unless she’s been there.
As for myself, well… I’ve been there! TWICE as I’m currently going through my second pregnancy (that’s me in the photo above). I know first hand that with dragging energy and a growing belly, it becomes increasingly difficult to carve out the time for higher maintenance hair care and styling so I have a few tips for you that you may find helpful.
“I don’t know if this sounds strange or not, but I’m natural and I don’t really like my hair. I don’t dislike it, let me say that, but I’m not in love with it…yet? Is this normal? My hair is really nappy, like really as in no curls, nothing and I want to feel fierce about it, but I just don’t right now. I wear it with semi pride I guess, but sometimes I wish it was just softer and looser. I feel like a fraud for reading this site. I’m supposed to be proud, right? I feel bad for even thinking this.” -Tasha
often i’m asked by new transitioners in secret, hushed conversations, huddled back in the corner of bookstores, living rooms and anywhere else someone decides to sneek over and brave the question of, “how long did it take for you to come to terms with your hair?” the person posting the questions immediately looks me straight in the eyes after the last word slips from their lips, staring intently waiting to see how i’ll respond. will i be judgmental? can i even relate? and at that moment you can see that glimmer of hope that quickly passes over their face, hoping that they are not alone.
this is such a loaded question for me with an answer that’s not as simple as it would seem. however, for the sake of this conversation, let’s just say about three to four years. it was about that many years before i really, truly, 100%, bonafide, you-can-kick-rocks-if-you-don’t-like-it, loved my hair. i always disclaim this timeline by pointing out the fact that [click to continue…]
“i really want to love shea butter but it sits on top of my hair and makes it so heavy and waxy. it completely ruins my hair styles and the style i had planned then turns into a bun until i can wash my hair again. what’s going on?” – grace (not pictured) when i [...]
“my hair is often dry when i wake up in the morning. well, actually everything on me is dry. i have excema and very dry skin and my hair is dry but gets really dry at night. is there any way i can combat this? – b (not pictured) dry hair or skin is not [...]
“i recently big chopped like a month or so ago so i’m relatively new to this whole thing. my problem is that my hair is super thick but my scalp is super tender. combing my hair is an absolute nightmare for me! do you have any advice for how to soften up my hair so [...]
“if my woman asks me how her natural hair looks, what should be the appropriate response besides a simple “it looks good”? and if my girl feels self conscious about letting me massage the scalp under her natural hair, how do i convince her it’s okay?” – earl sometimes we as women set ourselves up. [...]
“this may be a bit unconventional, but how should i take care of my hair during coloring? i’m type 4 and my hair shrinks down so much because i sweat a lot. i know that may be tmi, but wearing a scarf would not be cute and i know my husband would not want to [...]
i just had a question about what kind of styles suit people with fine hair. even before i was natural, i’ve always had fairly fine hair, so when i stopped the relaxer (1 year ago), i began searching for a style that would make it seem big, thick and fabulous! i find that it most [...]
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