Steve Harvey wants us to Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man, Ralph Banks says we should “marry out“, and now the latest survey conducted by The Washington Post and the Kaiser Family Foundation suggests that we are hyper-career driven workhorses who don’t prioritize marriage. It seems that everyone and their mom has an opinion regarding the so-called plight of the Single Black Woman. When did finding (and keeping) a companion require the help of so many “experts”? It’s no wonder some of us have simply adopted an I-Don’t-Need-A-Man mentality. But for all the PhDs and Relationship Gurus, I found that the most refreshing and no-nonsense gem came from none other than controversial rapper, T.I.
In a recent episode of Vh1′s T.I. & Tiny: The Family Hustle, the couple is discussing T.I.’s upcoming appearances, an unfinished album and many other obligations he needs to meet in an attempt to get his post-prison career back on track. Although clearly stressed, T.I. calmly turns to Tiny, mother of his children and wife of 18 months, and says, [click to continue…]
Ok I’m about to come at you from a different angle than may have previously been offered here in the natural hair community…and to the topic at hand, my answer is simple: Who am *I* to judge?
From circumcision to ear piercing to nail painting – a few things, of purely cosmetic nature, that parents do to their kids – all are widely accepted in many cultures/communities. Just like relaxing hair at a young age. All have been met with opposition, from both scientific and experiential standpoints. Just like relaxing hair at a young age. The reasons for which a parent decides to do or not do any of these things, and whether or not to call it child abuse, is really not my call. However, I DO have an issue with relaxing at a young age… and I’ll tell you why.
But first, I’d like to include the disclaimer that [click to continue…]
“Dear Lola, I don’t need your advice. I just need to vent. I am so sick and tired of my cousin, Kris (names changed), and her “good” hair. Before you get rowdy about my choice of words, let me explain. Kris’s hair is just as nappy as my own hair. However, I call it “good” because it seems unstoppable. And she doesn’t deserve it. I’ll get to that in a minute.
We both big chopped at the same time, but Kris had a [click to continue…]
Hello, my name is Lola, and I am a ratchett TV watcher.
Confession: I have watched the “Ridickulous” episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta three times. Bravo’s highest rated reality show has never been short of shock-value. But this particular episode far exceeds the show’s typical finger pointing, wig-snatching and over-the-top drama. I had to watch the episode again, you know, just to be certain that that really happened, that my eyes didn’t deceive me. Then I watched it a third time, for um, research purposes. Yeah. I’m comfortable with these admissions only because I’m fairly certain that I’m not alone. We could just chalk it up as a “guilty pleasure”. It is pleasurable in a twisted sort of way. Guilty? Perhaps, but do we feel guilty enough to turn the channel?
The Real Housewives of Atlanta without a doubt wins the Emmy for [click to continue…]
The holidays are upon us and comfort and joy are at the top of my wish list, and this martini has it in spades. Not only does this taste amaze, but its decorative look screams festive fun. I can only do so much with hair and drinks, so this time it’s all about the drink. Of course to make myself feel better and connect this some kind of way to my hair, I could drink this while on my super fly 3 day old hair – because we all know that’s the best hair. Okay I’m stretching.
Made with exotic dragon fruit, legend says that those who feast on its flesh will be granted with the strength and aggression of a dragon. I don’t know about all that, but this decadent drink is fi-yah! To mix up a few for your friends and family, (and yes some will even be a little jealous of your kitchen mixtress bartending skills) you’ll need the following: [click to continue…]
