“if my woman asks me how her natural hair looks, what should be the appropriate response besides a simple “it looks good”? and if my girl feels self conscious about letting me massage the scalp under her natural hair, how do i convince her it’s okay?” – earl
sometimes we as women set ourselves up. for instance, we’ll knowingly and painstakingly squeeze our way into a pair of jeans a size or two too small, a dress from 15 lbs ago or a skirt from when our thighs were 3 inches smaller. after making our way into said garments, we then turn to our significant others and ask if we look fat. straight face, no stutter, and focused on his face like a hawk looking for signs of deception in his response. now here’s the cavet – we already know that despite our terrorist interrogating tactics, we DO look fat but we don’t expect you to confirm that. well, some of us do; i welcome the truth so that i never risk walking out of the house looking like i’m wearing sausage casing. however, many of us also expect you to confirm, even when we don’t ask, or set ourselves up, that we are beautiful even when we do get brave enough to walk out of the house jimmy dean style. but i digress.
earl, your concern is very endearing and it’s wonderful that you are thinking about your girl’s hair but just like your reaction to too tight jeans, your response needs to be spot on or you risk dead silence during car rides or sleeping on the sofa. as for the first part of your question, if she asks you how her hair looks and you like it, a simple, “it looks good” does suffice, however, [click to continue…]
“this may be a bit unconventional, but how should i take care of my hair during coloring? i’m type 4 and my hair shrinks down so much because i sweat a lot. i know that may be tmi, but wearing a scarf would not be cute and i know my husband would not want to see that because it’s not sexy. afterwards detangling is a disaster because my hair becomes what you call “one big dread loc.” how do you handle this?” – anonymous
coloring!!! oh how i miss sex and the city!!!
yes, chica, this question is a bit unconventional, but since it’s the fourth of fifth time i’ve been asked this in the last few months, i guess it’s a much serious matter than i though for all readers 18 and over.
well, the closest thing in my life that would compare to coloring is probably these horrendously awful nightmares i have sometimes. let me just tell you, i toss and turn all over the bed. i’m on one side then the other, the foot then the head. my body is slung from pillow to post. shams get knocked off the side of the bed and i’m soaked by the end. and somehow after all of this, i wake up [click to continue…]
as women, the way we perceive the world is greatly influenced by how our parents not only raised us, but treated us. and as women, it has also been proven that we seek out attention in our lives, especially attention from the opposite sex, based off of how our fathers bestowed affection upon us and interacted with us.
if daddy was harsh, we often seek out harsh personal relationships – a subconscious reaction to the void of the lack of or lackluster emotions we are trying to fill. if he was loving, we more often than not will exude that as well.
but what about what our daddies thought and think about our hair? how does that affect us? and how much bearing does it have on our self perception? [click to continue…]
