Weaves link to self-esteem? One Waco, Texas pastor thinks so. Recently, Pastor A.J. Aamir spoke to his leadership staff about his mostly 20 something congregation regarding their choice to wear weaves.
“Long hair don’t care. What kind of mess is that? I don’t want my members so focused on what’s on their heads and not IN their heads,” he told AmericaPreachers.com. “I lead a church where our members are struggling financially. I mean really struggling. Yet, a 26 year old mother in my church has a $300 weave on her head. NO. I will not be quiet about this.”
Pastor A.J. goes on to say, “Our black women are getting weaves trying to be something and someone they are not. Be real with yourself is all I’m saying.” While I hear what he is saying, I am a little concerned about the judgment in his comments. Since when is weave an automatic indicator of low self-esteem? I know hair is a loaded topic of late but wigs, weaves and extensions have long been a style choice, particularly amongst black women. And weaves are hard to let go. I have a strong suspicion that if Pastor Aamir started dialogue as to why these women choose to wear weaves he may learn a thing or two. Even king Beyonce has found her way back into a weave after just cutting her hair into a pixi cut just a couple weeks ago. That indian remy is one helluva drug – no matter your financial budget (and we all know Beyonce can more than afford her weave). And singing in the amen corner, Beyonce’s hair colorist, Rita Hazen, who is personally responsible for the star’s new golden hue, shares the sentiment that weaves set unrealistic standards telling US Weekly, “Extensions give women the wrong expectation of what their hair should look like — it’s great for onstage, but everyday women shouldn’t have or want to have five pounds of hair on their head.” The
weave addiction/crutch/high struggle is real.
Despite which side any of us stand on when it comes to weaves, the question still remains: is it the church’s role to dictate such aesthetics? Aren’t there more important things to be addressed?- Tammy
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